每个人都有一个临界点。一个你看着自己说:“我一步也走不动了。我完成了。我做不到。”我们都能感觉到。我们都有过这样的经历。那么发生了什么?你辞职了吗?还是继续走?
前几天我和一个年轻人聊天,他对拳击很害怕,在我们学校,我们经常进行拳击。他是我老虎队的教练。我知道你在想什么,一个教练怎么能害怕对练呢?说实话,我不知道。我爱它。但是他,嗯,他没有。他来找我抱怨又有一个小碰撞或擦伤,并要求那天不要打架。我知道他没有受伤。我知道他身体很好。但在情感上,我知道他已经到了崩溃的边缘。 Because I am a martial arts instructor, I know many people may think I am hard on him, that I ridicule him or that I went all “Cobra Ki” on him. But the truth is much different. I just looked at him and simply said. “I know you don’t like sparring. I can see you are afraid of getting hit. But what you don’t see is that you are really good at it and have too much talent to waste it.” He looked down for a moment and realized that he hadn’t been fooling me for quite some time. “Look.” I said, “Get out there. Being brave isn’t about not being afraid. Being brave is being scared out of your mind and you keep going. You can do it. Go!” Every time I tell him to put on his gear, I can see his tribulation. I can see the conflict within. I can see him put on his gear, get out there and do the best he can. Is he good? No, he is OUTSTANDING. He has more natural talent than I have ever had. But he is afraid to spar. And every time he puts his gear on, he gives me his best. And every time, I respect him more. Why? Because courage is having the strength to overcome what you are afraid of doing or don’t believe you can do. Without the fear, there is no courage and thus, no glory. I have students that are afraid of being in front of people testing. I have students that are afraid to break their wood stations. I have students that are afraid of getting hit. I have students that are afraid of not meeting their parent’s expectations. I have students that are afraid of being laughed at. I have students afraid to wear the white pants because it “makes their butt look big.” I have students that are afraid because they are old. I have students that are afraid because it is something new. Yet every day, they are on the mats. And every day, Every SINGLE DAY, they persevere. They overcome their fears. And every day, I respect them more. They inspire me. They make me face my fears, my weaknesses and my shortcomings. As any Instructor does, I find inspiration in my students because while I encourage them, they encourage me, and each other, to rise to levels none of us ever could accomplish alone. Everyone has a breaking point, even me. When I hit it, as I have several times in my life, I have always found someone that will look at me and say, “You can do it!” That is when I found the courage to take that next step and accomplish what I was ready to give up on.
就在那时,我找到了成功的内在力量。就在那时,我去了我做梦都想不到的地方。就在那时,我把我认为不可能的事变成了可能。当你看到有人在挣扎,无论何时何地,记住,是时候鼓励他们,给他们一些你的力量,让他们找到自己的路。有了鼓励,一切皆有可能。